And when I saw it, I knew that it captured perfectly how I feel about the concept of happiness. Being happy isn't something that happens only when everything else falls into place…. like “I'll be happy once I get a raise at work…. have a baby…. get a new job….. buy a house…”. (You get the idea). You don't eventually “reach happiness”… happiness is a mood not a destination!
Happiness is Temporary- But That's Okay!
Happiness ebbs and flows…. during the course of any given day, there are times when I truly feel happy (and usually grateful), and then there are times of impatience, exhaustion, frustration…. and then a few hours later…. happiness finds its way back. Now I think that's because I am naturally looking for happiness…. some would say that I am a “glass half-full” kind of person. I believe that happiness is not something I've yet to reach, or will get all used up, I believe there is always a chance for it just around the corner. So when I have a chance to take a break and grab a few deep breaths- I can leave the impatience/exhaustion/frustration behind… and embrace happiness again.
Things in my life have been more than a little crazy lately…. our boiler needed to be replaced, Steve's car noise turned out to be a $1200 problem, my dog keeps running away because he is chasing this crazy fox and her four babies, the stomach virus keeps making stops at our house for a visit, and my husband is working a gazillion hours so everything falls on me to handle. And trust me- I shouldn't be the one researching boiler replacement companies, car repair shops, or dog fencing- I am out of my element and more than a little unqualified. Still- I am muddling through, and once I handle one of these situations…. I feel a bit of happiness!
Create Opportunities for Happiness
I think one of the greatest things I can do for myself is to create little opportunities for happiness- times when I just give a little something back to myself. Maybe it's the glass of wine while I am cooking dinner, maybe it's a hot bath after I put the kids on the bus for school (how decadent!), maybe it's planning a lunch date with a friend. I don't get to do these things very often, so that when I do- I appreciate them, and they definitely make me happy.
Do you agree that happiness comes and goes- often multiple times throughout the day? Do you try to create opportunities to treat yourself special from time to time- which gives you a chance for that happiness?