One of the benefits of an extended period of time without electricity, is finding a few moments to yourself to read! I was recently sent Brene Brown's new book “Daring Greatly”, a book that I am really enjoying. But one of the the things that has already resonated with me is where she talks about the issue of scarcity, what she calls the “never enough problem“. And in her book she quotes one of her favorite writers Lynne Twist from her book “The Soul of Money”….
“For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is “I didn't get enough sleep.” The next one is “I don’t have enough time.” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours of the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don't have enough of…. Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we're already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something. And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we dodn't get , or didn't get done that day.”
This statement sure rings true in my ears….but my morning dialogue is not just one of scarcity… it's also one of shame. “Why didn't I set the alarm earlier so that I could have exercised?” (Or if I did set the alarm earlier then the dialog is usually one about berating myself for being so overly tired that I “can't” get up). Or “Why did I eat all of the cookies yesterday?' or “I really need to give the dog a bath- ‘cuz man he stinks!”. This early morning dialogue is often a brief beating-myself-up over what I feel I did wrong or didn't get done the day before.
And then, before my feet have even touched the ground, I move into the “planning phase”…. of trying to “do better” in this day. I start clicking though the mental to-do list of everything that I'd like to get done… which of course is far greater that could ever actually be accomplished on one day. And yes, I know that means that I am already setting myself up for failure, and for tomorrow's morning's negative dialog. And when I think about Brene Brown's words…. and the realization that I do exactly as she describes…well, it makes me want to change my “morning mantra”. That instead of starting my day with thoughts of scarcity, shame, and inadequacy, that instead I start my day with thoughts of affirmation, of positive feelings about myself and the day ahead.
- What I am today, what I began with today… is all that I need
- I am grateful for all that is in my life today
- I am going to have a great day
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